Why is a demonstration of violence always about weakness?

Decades of adult life pass, and a person, just as he was afraid of someone else’s opinion, someone else’s “no,” someone else’s criticism or shouting, is still afraid.

Loved ones play a big role in our lives. And when they influence us, we no longer influence ourselves. When our life is determined by another. Unfortunately, we are no longer in it (metaphorically, of course).

For example, a woman or a man wants to change their life. Change your job, activity, profession, place of residence. Or separate, get a divorce. And here we go!

He or she will be told about the terrible future that awaits. There won’t be anything better than what we have. And something happens to the person, he wilts, agrees and even thanks.

What really happened?

The person allowed himself not only to get involved in his plans, to violate personal boundaries, to convince and dissuade himself. Deep down, I consented to this emotional abuse of myself. As self-punishment, because he considers himself unworthy of new and better things.

External violence is often about violence against oneself.

Prohibitions, restrictions, self-criticism. I am worse — the other is better. When a person treats himself so badly. Is it any different in the outside world?

Of course, if our childhood was spent in violence. We then reproduce violence. It’s more common this way.