Why didn’t the psychologist help?

Sometimes I hear from friends something like “I went to a psychologist, it didn’t help at all, I gave up on this idea.”

And I think, how is this possible? Why?

It seems to me that the first and most important thing is that there is no understanding/feeling that help is needed. Perhaps someone close to me asked to “go to a psychologist,” or it was “accepted” in my environment to visit a psychologist, and it seems like I need to, or some other reason. That is, there is no idea that this is bad for me , I can’t cope and I I want someone to help me.

The second is a clearly not formulated request, the purpose of the work. This is more the responsibility of a psychologist, it seems to me. But in any case, if the request is not specified, after a certain number of sessions the client may be disappointed, because does not see the results, his expectations from therapy may differ greatly from the psychologist/psychotherapist’s ideas about the process.

The third is a category of requests from the series: “I don’t like the way he behaves, how can I make him behave differently”? In theory, such requests during work can and should be transformed into: “I don’t like the way he behaves, what should I do in this situation.” I assume that not all clients are ready for such a turn, so they may well be disappointed that the psychologist refuses to “fix” another.

I think the client’s success and satisfaction with therapy depends not so much on the experience and…