“What will people say” is the main fear of humanity

“What will people say” is the main fear of humanity

One of the most common fears that psychologists face when working with clients.

This formula becomes the dominant motive for a huge number of problems: phobias, anorexia, failure, everything from there.
“People will say that I’m fat” “People will say that I’m stupid” “People will say that I’m somehow different” Is it possible to make it so that you don’t “give a damn” what people say. Of course you can. It is enough to start by removing hostility towards these “creatures” called PEOPLE.

A client who is afraid of what people will say can naturally object, “I’m not at all hostile to people, on the contrary, I’m afraid of them, I don’t have any hostility.” Consciously, of course not, but subconsciously, let’s see.

Why is the client afraid that people will shame him?

Where do such thoughts “About stupidity, ugliness, worthlessness, helplessness” come from?

As a rule, from a basic source: there was a psychological trauma, sometimes one is enough, for example, a father or mother said “Why are you so stupid here?”, the teacher disgraced me at school at the blackboard, the class laughed, The usual conclusion: “people are dangerous and hostile, people They always say only bad things about me.” Well, then, avoidance behavior often occurs, according to the principle “One…