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War with love
Sometimes, when a man is very afraid of losing his woman, he starts a war with her. He is trying to destroy the one who causes him fear and pain from possible loss.
Unable to bear these feelings that are tearing him apart from the inside, he tries to get rid of them, transferring the reason for their appearance to his woman. A woman becomes an object that causes suffering. The stronger the feelings for her, the stronger the war.
In the inability to withstand them, a man will provoke and push a woman to break up, leave, betray, with his various actions towards her, be it alienation, betrayal, attack or ignoring.
To lose her alive is, in his opinion, a healing in which he, mistakenly believing, will save himself from suffering. And yes, sometimes they say just that: I’m choking, I’m overwhelmed, I don’t have the strength, it’s impossible to love like that, love has exhausted me, weakened me. It is better not to love or be with someone for whom you do not have such feelings.
By hurting a woman, they try to share their pain with her, to soften it in themselves, by weakening and devaluing the role, power and strength of a woman over him, by the captivity of love in which he has fallen. And of course this leads to the death of both….. He kills the woman in her, through the murder of the woman (anima) in himself…. Women do the same thing, killing…
