The main reason for family discord is that one sets out to change the other…

“ Help me change my husband! He doesn’t talk to me at all, doesn’t take me into account… I tell him many times to do something, but he completely stopped responding to me. He doesn’t take me anywhere, he earns little, he keeps trying to run away to a friend’s garage… Previously, he was an accommodating “bear,” but now he is a stubborn goat. If you don’t tell me how to change my husband, I will divorce him. Take-all!”

The woman who asked this question probably won’t like my answer, but I have to say: “It’s simply impossible to change an adult. Especially with reproaches! It’s worth remembering this and not holding out useless hopes…”

For each of us, knowing that we are respected, loved and desired for who we are is the foundation of our happiness. Is it true?

The requirement to change our habits and characteristics frightens us, alarms us and causes resistance. Why should I change something in myself to please someone else? If you don’t like me, don’t come…

And with my husband too. It is much more effective and useful for both spouses to accept their spouse as he is, respect his right to remain himself, to differ from us in his views, habits, thoughts…

Oh, how difficult it is to achieve this in practice! At the stage of falling in love, the woman absolutely loved that her chosen one was a merry fellow and a joker, a star of companies and a walking piggy bank of jokes for any…