The life experience of a psychologist as a working tool.

Psychologists often come across phrases like:

-If you are single, how can you help solve problems in your marriage?

-If you don’t have children, how will you understand the problems of a parent?

-If you had a wonderful relationship with your family, how will you understand someone for whom the topic of family is pain?

In this case, it may be appropriate to answer the popular one: “And only those who have burned themselves can work as firefighters.” And now we have a specialist: Divorced (can’t work with people in relationships, since she couldn’t maintain her marriage), a woman (hires only women for work, she doesn’t understand men), with three children (to be sure to understand what it’s like to be parent), attempted suicide (to understand what leads to this) and lack of career growth (to understand what slows the client down on the path to career success).

-No, wait, we want a specialist who is in a strong, happy marriage, raising wonderful children, building a dizzying career.

Why do you think that a psychologist with a divorced marital status will not help you? Are you sure that your lens for a successful marriage is the same for everyone? Is your vision for a successful career similar to others? And don’t you thereby give the psychologist the right to condemn you and your life, don’t you ask him to give you instructions in order to live according to his advice and rules?