Taking care of your partner

Caring Behavior Technique: Make a list of five small things your partner did that made you feel caring and loved. Even if your relationship is now very far from ideal and it’s difficult to remember such actions, try! Even if it was a long time ago!

For example, Maria wrote that her husband Igor:
1. Gave her flowers2. I praised her ideas for apartment design3. Hugged and kissed her on his way back from work4. I bought some nice little things for home improvement5. At dinner I asked how her day was.

And Igor wrote that Maria:

1. Supported him in new endeavors
2. Tried to spoil him with culinary surprises 3. I was always happy when he came home from work4. I willingly spent time with his friends5. Encouraged his hobby

Next, each select at least one item from the list written by your spouse that you are willing to do at least 5 times a week.

The important thing is that your partner, when compiling the list, was guided by what is important to him! That is, we will be able to do exactly what our partner needs — and what we ourselves don’t think he needs.

Because our ideas about what we do that is important for our partner can be very different from what their emotional needs actually are!

Igor again began to hug and kiss his wife in the evenings, and Maria met him at the door every evening with a smile…