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Self-love begins with the formation of personal boundaries
A person who oversteps the interests of other people for his own balance is a criminal. If, in search of balance, a person gives in to the encroachments of society and its demands, he becomes neurotic. A neurotic is the same criminal. It’s just that his crime is committed against himself. He does not allow his own interests to live, putting others above himself. And such a criminal spends all the resources available in order not to be caught; a colossal amount of energy is spent on “preserving” the relationship. Because of the fear of losing the favor of loved ones or friends, a person goes against himself. Keeps himself the way he is pleasing to others. But the most important thing here is that no one will appreciate all these sacrifices. And the fact that a person gives up himself for the sake of “the love of another” does not bring this very “love of another”, but brings manipulation. It is extremely easy to manipulate a person without boundaries; he has already rented himself out. A neurotic, cannot separate his own “I” from another person, cannot understand where his desires are, and where he has merged with another again and “Oh, we love vacations in hot Egypt,” although perhaps he still remembers himself, in a tent, in mountains, cool autumn. No, it’s not bad to compromise with your loved ones. “Compromise” is based on respect for opposing positions. When…
