Reasons for child disobedience

From my work experience, I often meet parents who believe that they cannot cope with raising a child. The child does not listen, does not fulfill requests, demands his own, does not respect the boundaries of communication, including with parents.

Why is this happening?
📌 One of the reasons: modern parents, reading posts by psychologists, popular literature on psychology, are afraid of “causing psychological trauma” to a child by strictly prohibiting him from doing something or demanding that he follow the rules. It is based on a feeling of guilt, the fear of becoming a “bad mother” for your child.

Especially if such a parent’s childhood was difficult, they did not understand him, they forced him to do something. The parent is afraid of causing the same pain to the child.

Trying to avoid those points of pain that were in his childhood.

The basis of such relationships is the mechanism of projection; it seems to the parent that the child is experiencing the same feelings as himself. But often these are different feelings.

✔️ What about the child? Of course, he will take advantage of the parent’s weakness, perfectly feeling his inner guilt and fear, and will learn to manipulate, having discerned the parent’s weaknesses.


📌 The second most common reason: the parent is trying to compensate the child for what he lacked. There was not enough…