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Parents feel guilty about their children. Client case.
Continuation of the topic of how to get rid of guilt.
A fairly common type of guilt is the feeling of guilt of parents towards their children.
In this note I give a specific client example of how to work with parents’ feelings of guilt towards their children. Permission to publish has been received.
- I don’t play with the child
— I’m angry with him — I swear at him — I’m tired of the child — But he’s also sick! It’s just a nightmare, you sit at home with him as if in captivity. There are mothers who easily raise 2–3–4 children, manage everything and don’t get tired. Why can’t I do it.
— In general, I’m a useless mother! — client Olga, a young woman of 30, finished the monologue with tears in her eyes.
“Let’s say you’re a useless mother,” I tell her.
“What are you talking about,” Olga interrupts me, “I want to be ideal, or at least a good mother.”
The feeling of one’s own badness is difficult to bear and heavy, from which one wants to get rid of.
One of the options for getting rid of guilt (the most common) sounds like this: you need to become ideal and then everything will be fine .
For this you need very little: sacrifice yourself, i.e. sacrifice yourself…
