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Myths about children’s emotions
Despite the fact that a “cult of children” has now been established in our country, many adults do not fully understand how these same children work. Today we’ll talk about how emotions develop in children and what myths exist about this.
Myth 1 CHILDREN CAN’T BE ANGRY or SAD
Joy, anger, sadness, disgust, fear, surprise are basic, innate emotions, i.e. available from the moment of birth. All animals have them, people are no exception.
Based on these emotions, in the process of upbringing, such complex feelings as delight, shame, guilt, jealousy, etc. arise. But everyone has the same base.
Myth 2 NEGATIVE EMOTIONS TRAUMATIZE A CHILD A child is not traumatized by his own anger or sadness, he is traumatized by LACK OF CONTACT WITH AN ADULT who helps the child experience these emotions (comforts him), determine their causes, find acceptable ways to express these emotions, understand how they affect the child’s thinking and his behavior. This is called “developing emotional intelligence” and “helping the child to be in touch with himself.”
Myth 3 A HAPPY CHILD = ALWAYS A JOYFUL CHILD If only you knew how many people this attitude has ruined their relationships with their own children!
Let’s start with the fact that nothing “always” happens. It is completely normal to experience negative emotions from time to time. Sadness, sadness, anxiety — often help a person, help him…
