My wife is jealous all the time…

Good afternoon, my name is Pavel.

My wife and I have been together for about five years. And I seem to have reached my boiling point. At first we practically never parted, it was love, a candy-bouquet period. A year later they started living together. I spend most of my free time at home. My wife is jealous of my communication with friends and immediately builds up incredible pictures of infidelity if I stay late at work. I did not give reasons and do not give them. At first I closed my eyes to this peculiarity of hers and tried to explain. She seems to understand, but she can’t resist a scandal. Now the situation has escalated so much that any of my actions end in a scandal: I didn’t answer the call, came later, met with friends, sat on the phone. The situation at home is very tense. I do not know what to do.

It is difficult to explain to a person what he himself does not understand. Often jealousy is just the tip of the iceberg. Behind it lie problems that you personally cannot solve.

Autonomy and dependence

Each person comes into a relationship with certain baggage and experience. It often happens that what we lacked in our parental family, we demand from our partner. When your significant other doesn’t love you the way you want, you lose your sense of security. Your spouse is focused on herself. It demonstrates dependence: a person is immersed in his experiences, strives to be intensely present in your personal space, shows his jealousy and makes claims…