Mom is always unhappy with me.

Why can a mother be constantly unhappy with her adult child? What does this mean and what should a child do?

Not long ago, a 25-year-old girl came to me with problems in her relationship with her mother. Throughout her life, she was a rather strict and disciplined woman, raising her daughter without a father. But from the moment her daughter turned 23, her mother became too picky and dominant. Whatever the girl does, her mother always criticizes it. The client says that even when she decided to join the gym, her mother did not share this idea. She said it would be more expedient and reasonable to do housework. Benefits for both the family and her figure.

The girl endured it for a long time, but at one point she decided that she wanted to live separately from her mother. She agreed with a friend to rent an apartment together. But as soon as I told my mother about these intentions, she immediately criticized her daughter’s idea. The mother stated that the girl would not be able to live without her for even a week; she would be unable to work or take care of herself at home.

My client is very angry with her mother and is offended. But he recognizes the fact that he cannot always take responsibility for his life. At the same time, the client associates her own immaturity with the overprotectiveness of her mother, who simply did not allow her to grow up, fill her bumps and gain her own life experience.

Of course, in this case we are talking about a toxic relationship with the mother…