Mom, I’m alive! Or catering to mom’s fear.

Each person coming into this world carries his own, which came from his parents and came from his family.

Often during a consultation, behind the problems voiced by a person, you can see and hear the words addressed to your mother: Mom, I survived! I live! And you live!

When the mother could not conceive for a long time and/or the entire pregnancy was in danger of the child’s life. When the child was unwanted by the mother and/or her immediate environment. During her entire pregnancy she had to defend her right to become the mother of this child and give him life.

When the mother had already lost children. Born or frozen in her womb. When an unborn child was loaded with too many expectations, primarily related to love and neediness. When the mother herself was born with such initial data.

Then the child is unconsciously forced again and again to prove to his mother and the world that he is not dead, he is alive. After all, a mother who has lived in anxiety and fear for the life of her child throughout her entire pregnancy or part of it, often continues to carry this fear further.

She often checks whether the child is breathing, healthy, and alive. And since the contact with herself is weak, the woman does not believe herself and the actions are repeated again and again.

She becomes overprotective and/or goes into depression or depression soon after giving birth. Often accompanied by other seemingly suddenly…