Life after a frozen pregnancy 2

How to cope with the loss of a child? Continuation of Irina’s story.

In the first part of this topic, I introduced you to my client Irina, in whose life a frozen pregnancy occurred.

For two months the woman was deeply depressed.

At the time of seeking psychological help, Irina was sure that she would not dare to get pregnant again, since she simply would not survive another loss.

At first, our sessions were devoted to Irina’s emotions and feelings. She shared with me her thoughts, unfulfilled hopes, fears, pain.

She was rooted in her pain, and asked the same questions: “Why me? What did you do wrong? I approached pregnancy responsibly, ate right, and was in a good mood.”

And this is a very common story. When you want to find someone to blame, as if punishment or awareness of guilt will ease the pain of loss. But that’s not true.

Gradually we began to change Irina’s view of her and what happened to her. Why did her motherhood take place, even if not as she expected it and certainly not as she dreamed of it.

“I stopped looking at this story as guilt or punishment. It’s difficult to accept such an outcome, but the relief that came when I let the child go not only physically relieved me of the fear that it would happen again,” says Irina

And, what is very important, the woman felt ready for a new pregnancy. Of course, this took time. But, at a minimum, Irina…