How to tame your envy?

Is it possible to tame your own envy? How to prevent it from becoming a destructive feeling?

Very often people do not allow themselves to envy. Even if this emotion has already arisen, they pretend that nothing is happening. But suppressing envy automatically launches destructive processes. Envy, repressed into the subconscious, is transformed into self-doubt, depressive disorders, somatic manifestations, groundless aggression, and anxiety.

Envy never goes away without a trace, just like any repressed emotion. In order not to face the feeling of one’s own inferiority and insufficiency, the human psyche puts into motion protective mechanisms that shift the focus of attention from oneself to another.

“He got it undeservedly! He doesn’t deserve this!

“Every time I see a person much more successful than me, I think that he got all this either from rich parents or through an acquaintance. I don’t even think that he could have gotten everything through his own labor and abilities. This is probably due to the fact that it is extremely difficult for me to recognize someone’s competence. I tolerate criticism addressed to me so painfully that praise addressed to someone else is just as unbearable,” says Evgeniy

How does suppressed envy manifest itself?

Most often a person gives the following reaction:

• Hatred towards someone who has been much luckier in life;
• Finding fault with the slightest shortcomings…