How to get out of a codependent relationship?

So, you understand that you are codependent, but you don’t know what to do about it. Let’s deal with the current situation.

I’ll immediately say two important things on this topic:
1. It’s quite difficult to get out of codependency alone, this is normal, because codependency is the result of early trauma, so the process will go much faster when working with a psychologist;2. You can read about codependent relationships and how they are formed in my previous articles for a better understanding of the situation.

The main goal of getting out of codependency is to shift your focus from your partner to yourself . Learn to build personal boundaries, come to an understanding of who you are, what you want, what you are passionate about, what you like and don’t like. When confronted with themselves, it is usually very difficult for codependent people, since there is a huge amount of pain hidden inside, which was previously covered by another person, and now you are alone with your feelings. Therefore, you often want to escape from this pain, and you need to have a great desire to turn your life in a different direction.

What else is important to do to get out of codependency?

• Separate from parents . If you are not mentally separated from parental figures, you begin to bond with your partner as if he were replacing your parents;
• Learn to build your psychological boundaries , separate them from your partner;