How to deal with impostor syndrome?

Faith in a child works wonders. And vice versa… Many parents prefer to “assess objectively” in the most sensitive periods of a child’s life, undermining confidence and destroying healthy self-esteem: “Who will tell you the truth, if not the mother?”… An

excellent certificate, honors diploma from a university is everything was “lucky”… No matter how much others later recognize your abilities and achievements, it will always seem to you that they are about to understand everything and reject you. And of course there will be envious, evil people! Then you try with all your might to appear more confident, stronger, bigger. Or are you trying to be nice, not compete, so as not to lose, because losing for you is a failure, a confirmation of your worthlessness.

In some ways, this is my story. The fear of being “over-praised” or “put on the neck” is a problem for many parents who grew up in a totalitarian system. And mine too. As an adult, I had to look for a way to my true self, clearing away the rubbish of comparisons, limitations, assessments, “don’t be smart,” “you don’t think with your head, but with your seat,” “it’s always better to keep quiet.”

You look at people and think that they somehow entered universities after passing those very terrible exams that you didn’t even dare to think about. And at the same time, a person writes three mistakes in a word and does not know what a perimeter is… But this does not make him worse. He’s awesome in his confidence and self-worth. And you can do it too!

Only allowing yourself to desire and be who you are will eliminate…