Hello, hello — bye, bye

“Hello, hello — bye, bye” — words from a famous song… Often behind such formal communication lies simple indifference, sometimes the impossibility or reluctance of people to talk frankly, to turn their soul inside out. Yes, it is often difficult to face the real thoughts and feelings towards your partner. It is much easier and more comfortable to observe the unwritten ritual of correspondence and call back etiquette.

After all, even the very fact of interaction already says something, even if the interlocutors are silent or exchange meaningless phrases. Now more and more people are migrating to the Internet, largely due to the changed reality around them. It turns out that many relationships are more comfortable and safe to maintain virtually than to take obvious risks in real life.

There are clients who come for consultations in order to, together with a psychologist, make a kind of surfing through their lives on the Internet. In it there is a partner, and more often partners — simultaneously or one after the other. And training, and communication, shopping, correspondence, in general — anything. Life on the Internet has become indistinguishable from real life and has become quite organically integrated into it.

Is this good or bad for relationships? Probably not bad, since you can take your time, take a closer look, think about the situation, and evaluate your partner. But most often communication here is based on a game scheme. And the other person acts as an object onto which one’s own expectations, pains, past…