Either my way or not at all. Relationship Requirements

People who have been badly hurt in relationships (both men and women) often choose a survival strategy: “now it’s my way or not at all.” They dream of finding a partner who is perfect for them. This means it won’t touch a single pain point.

The focus of attention when looking for a new person is on the potential dangers that he may bring with his appearance in their life. They are ready to run away from contact at the very first signs of a “mismatch” or make very strict demands on a new acquaintance. If he fits into them, then he passed the lice test.

A man should…

A woman should…

They do not see a real person with his feelings and boundaries, they are looking for the ideal satisfaction of their needs. Preferably cheap.

Everything is fine if you agree and adapt to me. And if you are dissatisfied with something (flax), hello, Amigo, you are not suitable for me.

It is very difficult for them to withstand frustration in the form of another person’s boundaries: “No, I’m not ready to go to your house on the first date, I would like to get to know you better.” Or feedback about how their behavior affects another: “You know, I was uncomfortable that you canceled the meeting at the last minute, I had already left and I had to urgently change plans.”

They expect the Other to unconditionally understand their feelings and circumstances, but are completely unwilling to do so in…