Divorce. What and how to tell a child

Divorce. Should children be told about the breakup with their partner?

Divorce is a complex and lengthy process that does not happen suddenly. Before divorce, spouses go through a whole journey consisting of many unpleasant events.

Is it possible to go this route without children? Of course not.

Children are part of the family system, they see what happens between their parents.

What happens to a child when parents go to/get divorced.

For a child from birth, parents are an integral part of the world; they are the foundation that allows them to develop freely, feel confident and calm.

When the family system begins to break down (conflicts, misunderstandings, lies, etc.), the child has the feeling that the world is collapsing, that the world has become unpredictable and unsafe.

Children develop anxiety (a chronic condition), which children are unable to cope with due to lack of personal experience and dependence on parents.

Since it is impossible to carry this state inside for a long time, children place it in the external environment — often through aggression, which can be directed at others (rudeness, rudeness, conflicts), or inside themselves (children close themselves off, scold, blame…