Chronic inactivity

The habit of devaluing

Devaluation causes self-doubt, second-guessing, disrupts the system of feelings and reactions, imperceptibly turning into a habit and turning us into obedient ones, sleeping in reality.

Devaluation on the part of parents leads to the fact that children begin to doubt themselves and speculate on what is not there. So they begin to live an imaginary life, full of anxieties, fears, doubts and expectations that one day everything might change. They know how to devalue their lives.

Children…They have grown up a long time ago. But their self-doubts only deepen.

When do we internalize self-doubt?

Following on from one session,,,

“ — One. I often wanted to be alone. But even when I was alone, I seemed to be afraid that my mother would come in and force me to do something — homework, washing dishes, beating carpets, washing dishes, mopping floors, and so on. And then I’ll have to quit what I’m (suddenly) doing and pretend that I’m ready to go and do what she says. Resignedly.

- You said “suddenly”, “suddenly I was studying”…

- Ahhh, yes. This is some kind of habit, or something, not to get attached to anything, because at any moment it can be taken away, devalued, thrown away, forced to be remade. You can’t imagine such an unpleasant feeling, as if you have nothing. But I really want something to happen. Yours. Which no one can encroach on. Reinforced…