Character Trap

Character Trap

How often do we describe the difficulties in building relationships with a universal (at first glance) word — CHARACTER 🤷🏻 ♀

If you look at it, Character is not a deliberate, quick reaction. 🚀 That is, this is when a person transfers once effective behavior from past experience to all situations in the present (even if these actions are not appropriate). 😏

Our past is included in our present, but it can either help us decide something, be a support in difficult situations, or hinder us. ☝ If it no way Not influences then _ it Not is significant For functioning person V present .

It happens that character can be very useful (when it is effective in the current context) 👌

However, if over and over again the same mistakes are made and they are not regulated, they remain in the area of reactive reactions — you can (and should) go to therapy — this will help you learn to be aware of what we are doing in the moment. 🤔

Of course, this is not possible immediately “once and for all”)

It all starts with the fact that gradually, in therapy, we begin to notice that the usual pattern of behavior is not repeated so often. 🥳 At the same time, the initial reaction may remain, and then — NOTICE, RECOGNIZE, but RECOGNIZE another reaction or reality. And this makes it possible to begin to live our lives the way we choose, and not the way our unconscious previous experience does for us. At such moments we really feel that the…