Am I suitable for my “ideal” man?

I bring to your attention an exercise that will allow you to look at yourself through the eyes of the “ideal” man for you, and understand your own mistakes in communicating with him. This technique can be done individually or in a group.

Mark your place in the space with a floor anchor, which can be any object, such as a newspaper. Name the qualities of an ideal man. Also mark each quality with a floor anchor.

When you take the place of each quality, look at yourself through the eyes of a man who possesses this quality. How does this man perceive you ?

For example, girl A. identified the following qualities of an ideal man: responsibility, ability to earn money, desire to care, good appearance, sports, healthy lifestyle, sexuality, generosity, intelligence, education, sense of humor.

When A. stood on the floor anchor “ responsibility ” and felt like a responsible man, she developed sympathy for A., who has responsibility, just like him. Sympathy intensified in place of such qualities as: ability to earn money, good appearance, sexuality, sports, intelligence, education, healthy lifestyle.

From the “ desire to care, ” the man began to resist: “I don’t feel respect for myself in A., a desire to take care, so I don’t want to take care of her.”

Out of a state of “ generosity ,” the man said that he would be happy to share what he had if the girl asked him and then thanked him. A. can do neither one nor the other.