About friendship.

Friendship is a complex component consisting of many ingredients. We can’t be alone. We need friends. And we experiment with this all our lives.

The concept, the idea of what friendship is develops in us over the years. To a large extent, investing in friendship depends on our unmet needs much more often than on feelings. But, Friendship is love, multifaceted, different, individual and very open.

We learn to make friends in childhood. It is there that we test the strength of friendship. For some, friendship starts in kindergarten, for others in school. That’s great rarity. Because not everyone is ready to be truly friends yet. It is more of an experiment, communication not colored by meanings and values. It is only in early adolescence, when we separate from our family, that we focus on our environment. It is during this period of life that the search and choice of like-minded people becomes our life.

Looking around, we take as friends people with common interests, caring, with a sense of humor to laugh at, loyal, similar to us. Or perhaps a figure that will replace our mother, father, sister, brother.

Very often, friendship is a transference. Some kind of compensation for what is missing and not received in life. Often a friend becomes a sister, replacing the one with whom it did not work out to be friends. Or an older friend becomes your ideal mother who died or abandoned you. In friendship, you love and are grateful to your friend for being with you. For being with her.