5 Manipulative Ways to Apologize

Following the logic that no one owes anyone anything, apologies can be completely eliminated from everyday life. Because an apology is a sincere desire, and we, in theory, have no right to expect it from someone.

But, in a situation where you feel offended, it is normal and natural to expect an apology. If you are not a robot or a Buddha, then you cannot avoid resentment and expectations.

I am sure that close people can periodically make mistakes, apologize and survive. But, if the apologies of your loved ones (and not only) are similar to those described below, this is manipulation.

Here are the TOP five most idiotic apologies, after which there is absolutely no feeling that your expectations were met. Maybe I’m exaggerating a little, but in general it will be clear.

1. “Sorry that you misunderstood me.”

It’s funny, but the person simply shifts his shame and guilt onto you. The nominal “sorry” is here to take things up a notch. And, “I didn’t understand” is another step))) He is more conscious and smarter. He seems to forgive you for your mistake.

2. “Sorry, but that’s how it happened.”

With such apologies, a person simply shifts responsibility for what happened to the circumstances. Accordingly, removing any obligations.

3. “Sorry, but it’s your own fault.”

Here the responsibility is shifted directly to the “victim”. Again: he/she is great, he…